The recent episode of Skeem Saam has stirred quite a conversation amongst South Africans. It features the characters Ntswaki, played by Lethabo Mekoa, and Toby, portrayed by Sicelo Buthelezi.
The storyline dives deep into a complex issue – consent. After an intense kissing session, the situation escalates when Ntswaki tries to leave but is convinced by Toby to stay, leading to a serious allegation of rape.
The Controversy Explained
What makes this episode even more controversial is the revelation that Ntswaki deceived Toby about her age. She claimed to be a university student when she is actually just 15 years old.
This has had viewers divided, with many arguing if Toby should be held accountable at all. Users on social media have pointed out that Ntswaki’s actions, such as willingly visiting Toby’s home and initiating physical affection, blur the lines of consent. Some say they believe Toby assumed consent was given based on Ntswaki’s behaviour.
A Divided Opinion
On the flip side, many are saying that regardless of Ntswaki’s actions, the fact that she tried to withdraw consent should be considered. Just because she initially agreed to stay and engage doesn’t negate her right to change her mind.
One user captured the sentiment well: “It was very much unfair the judge didn’t take into account the girl’s actions and the testimonies of the witnesses… 15 years is very harsh.”
It’s hard to be a man in this country. We just witnessed a miscarriage of justice here!!
He got deceived into thinking she’s a Varsity student, she initiated the sex, regretted it and cried rape.
This is a sad reality of men in this country!#SkeemSaam pic.twitter.com/IapD5elfjy
— Roṋewa Mathephe (@Ronewa_Mathephe) October 16, 2024
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What did we learn?
1. Consent can be revoked anytime.
2. Toby knew Ntswaki wanted to go home but he coerced her to stay. That is not consent.
3. Ntswaki was not reciprocating in the sexual act. Toby admitted it. That is not consent.Case closed! 🧑🏽⚖️#SkeemSaam
— 𝙰𝙺 𝚄𝚉𝚄𝙼𝙰𝙺𝙸 🦊 (@Akhona_PQ) October 16, 2024
Skeem Saam is trying to teach your sons about consent and that something like that could lend you in jail. It is teaching a lot of gents that taking a girl home with you doesn’t mean she’s consenting to sex and if she stops you stop or you’ll end up in jail #SkeemSaam 🤷🏽 pic.twitter.com/aHptzUhQGb
— Shotgun (@KingDon_za) October 17, 2024
This debate shows just how essential it is to understand the concept of consent and its implications in our society.
